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Bereavement

The bereavement process is different for everyone and there are many different sources of guidance to help you. What works really well for one person will be wholly unsuccessful for another. Be wary of trying to follow the “stages of grief” though, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross herself had expressed frustration at how this became a very structured approach used by practitioners; incommensurate with her original intentions.

We widows know all about grief. It is chaotic, overwhelming and, most of all, cruel. It will strike while you are in the supermarket, watching a movie, listening to a song, or reading a piece of text – and when it strikes, it will cut through you like a hot knife through butter.  We have all been on our knees, or lying on the floor, sobbing uncontrollably – sometimes for hours.  That was my life for a long time. When, dripping in pain, we try to explain ourselves to a bereavement counselor, psychologist or best friend, we are often met with the distinct feeling they have no idea what kind of hell we inhabit. So, we need all the help we can get.

There are numerous links below providing options, depending upon where you are located.  We can also help you find an experienced psychologist with whom you can have a personal consultation. See what works – try everything and anything – as long as you keep trying. Don’t ever give up on your ability to recover. It will take time, but you will get there – eventually.

 

Here are a few words by Dr. Susan Delaney at UCD’s TEDx Talk about grief…

 

 

EUROPE

IRELAND

Widow IE

Pieta House

Citizen’s Information on Bereavement and Counselling

Information for those affected by bereavement PDF

A guide for widows of road traffic accident victims

Irish Hospice Foundation

HSE Booklet – You are not alone

TUSLA Family Resource Centre

AACPI

UNITED KINGDOM

NHS Bereavement

Widowed & Young Org UK Bereavement Support

Care For The Family Org UK Bereavement Support

The NETHERLANDS

Facebook – Sterke Weduwes

Facebook – Weduwen & Weduwnaars

Facebook – Weduwen & Weduwnaars 50+

Facebook – Weduwen & Weduwnaars Vriendschap & Ontmoeting

Facebook – De Jongbelegen Weduwe

Steun Na Partnerverlies

Landelijk Steunpunt Rouw

De Jonge Weduwe

Stichting Mirro Module Rouwverwerking

Het Rouw Café

In De Wolken

Humanitas

Remember Me Rouwverwerking Tips

Monuta Verlies Partner

Doodgaan Doorgaan – Rouw

Zelfmoordpreventie Online

FRANCE

Psychologies – Accepter Le Temps du Deuil

Croire La Croix

L’épreuve du Deuil

DENMARK

Ostenfeldt

GERMANY

Trauma Info Hinterbliebene

Koep Johann DE

For young mourners:

Nicolaidis Young Wings DE

SWITZERLAND

Projuventute Witwen Witwer & Waisenfon

ITALY

Fondazione Vedove Oblate Trinitarie

SWEDEN

Handbok Om Sorg PDF

SPAIN

Fundacion Luca de Tena

 

 

 

CANADA

 

Pension Plan Benefits

● Canada Pension Plan Death Benefits
● Canada Pension Plan Survivors Pension
● Canada Pension Plan Children’s Benefit

Old Age Security Benefits

● Guaranteed Income Supplement Veterans Affairs Canada
● War Veterans Survivors Benefits
● War Veterans Dependent’s Benefits

Article re Survivors Canadian Pension Plan

https://www.advisor.ca/columnists_/lea-koiv/shedding-light-on-the-cpp-survivor-benef
it/

Temple/church/synagogue support:

● Bereavement Self Help – http://bereavement.ca/index.html
● Canada’s Grief Resource Centre – http://www.robertspress.ca
● Facing Bereavement – http://www.facingbereavement.co.uk
● Fathers Grieving Infant Loss – http://www.fathersgrievinginfantloss.blogspot.com
● Genesis – http://www.genesis-resources.com/forTheBereaved.htm
● GriefWorks BC – http://www.griefworksbc.com
● Grief and Renewal – http://www.griefandrenewal.com
● Grief Support Services – http://www.griefsupportservices.org
● Guiding Kids Thru Life’s Storms – http://www.rainbows.ca/resources.aspx
● Helping Those Who Have Lost a Spouse – http://www.newhope-grief.org
● Infant Loss – www.babysteps.com
● Internet Grief Community http://griefnet.org
● Kids and Grief http://www.kidsaid.com
● Web Healing – http://www.webhealing.com
● The Compassionate Friends of Canada – http://www.tcfcanada.net
● http://bfocornwall.ca/
● http://bereavementontarionetwork.ca/
● https://cmha.ca/mental-health/your-mental-health/grief/
● http://www.psych.on.ca/
● http://www.dcontario.org/ Distress Centre
● http://griefnet.org/Youth Grief Resources
● Grieving Children – http://www.grievingchildren.com
● Grieving Youth Site – http://www.soul2soul.ca
● MomDiaries/Children’s Grief – http://www.tvo.org/themummydiaries
● US-based Internet grief community supported by psychologist Cendra Lynn –
http://griefnet.org and http://www.kidsaid.com
● Canadian Hospice Palliative Care http://www.chpca.net/home.html
● GriefWorks BC – http://www.griefworksbc.com/
● Roberts Press & The Grief Resource center – http://www.robertspress.ca/
● Rainbows – http://www.rainbows.ca/resources.aspx
● Web Healing – http://www.webhealing.com/
● Griefwalker The Film – http://films.nfb.ca/griefwalker
● Cremation Options – http://www.cremation-options.com/web/guest/whatwedo
● Grief is Good Blog – http://grief-is-good.blogspot.com/
● Support for Widows and Widowers – http://www.newhope-grief.org/
● Facing Bereavement – http://www.facingbereavement.co.uk/
● TVO The Mummy Diaries/Children’s Grief
h ttp://www.tvo.org/themummydiaries
● Infant Loss – http://www.babysteps.com/
● Fathers Grieving Infant Loss –
http://www.fathersgrievinginfantloss.blogspot.com/
● Canadian Foundation for the Study of Infant Deaths
http://www.sidscanada.org/
● Youth Site – http://www.soul2soul.ca/
● Bereavement Ontario Network – http://www.bereavementontarionetwork.ca/
● Bereaved Jewish Families of Ontario –
http://www.bereavedjewishfamilies.on.ca/
● The Shiva Foundation ? a grief site by the author Deborah Morris Coryell –
http://www.goodgrief.org/
● Widowed Parents of the GTA – http://www.leaguelineup.com/wpgta
● Perinatal Bereavement Services of Ontario – http://www.pbso.ca/
● Honouring young poet Stacey Levitt, daughter of Ned and Cheryl Levitt
http://www.iamarose.com/
● The AIDS Bereavement Project of Ontario – http://www.abpo.org/
● Seasons Centre for Grieving Children – http://www.grievingchildren.com/
● Grief and Renewal – http://www.griefandrenewal.com/
● Grief Support Services – http://www.griefsupportservices.org/
● Facing and Dealing with Bereavement –
www.facingbereavement.co.uk/home.htm
● Collecting Loss – http://www.collectingloss.com/
● Canadian Resource Centre for Victims of Crime – http://www.crcvc.ca/en
● Last Post Fund – http://www.lastpostfund.ca/
● Widows and Widowers http://www.widownet.org/
● http://kidsaid.com/
● http://www.oacas.org/ Children’s Aid Society can offer many supports!

Hospice & Palliative Care Resources:

● Penticton & District Hospice Society – http://www.pentictonhospice.com/
● BC Cancer Palliative Care – http://www.bccancer.bc.ca/
● Care Guide – http://www.thecareguide.com/PalliativeCare/Default.aspx
● Hospice – http://www.hospicenet.org/
● More Hospice – http://www.stmichaels.bc.ca/
● Palliative Care Advocacy – http://www.hospicebc.org
● Vancouver Area Hospice – http://www.crossroadshospice.bc.ca/
● Children’s Hospice – http://www.canuckplace.org/
● Virtual Hospice – http://www.virtualhospice.ca

Caring For Seniors at Home:

http://bcseniors.community.officelive.com/hospice.aspx

Miscellaneous:

● BC Funerals – http://www.bcfunerals.com
● STOP Unwanted Mail to Deceased http://www.the-bereavement-register.ca

● Canadian Resource Centre for Victims of Crime – http://www.crcvc.ca/en
● Consumer Protection BC – http://www.bpcpa.ca
● Canada Consumer Protection  http://www.ic.gc.ca/eic/site/oca-bc.nsf/eng/home
● Executors Toolkits – http://www.theexecutorstoolkit.com
● Funeral Services Association of Canada http://www.fsac.ca/home.html
● Commonwealth War Graves Commission – http://www.cwgc.org
● CWGC Canadian Agency – http://www.cwgc-canadianagency.ca

 

USA

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Alliance of Hope
http://www.allianceofhope.org
American Widow Project
http://americanwidowproject.org
Camp Widow
http://www.campwidow.org
Gary Roe – Healing Is Possible
http://www.garyroe.com/
Grief Share
http://www.griefshare.org
Modern Widows Club
http://modernwidowsclub.com
National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization
http://www.nhpco.org
Soaring Spirits International
www.soaringspirits.org
Second Firsts
http://www.secondfirsts.com
Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS)
http://www.taps.org/
Widowed Village
http://widowedvillage.org
Young Widow Forum
http://widda.org
Psychological Support
American Psychological Association (APA) Online Help Center
http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/
National Suicide Prevention
Call: 1-800-273-TALK (8255),
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
The Recovery Village
Call: 844.278.8408
https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/co-occurring-disorders/grief/
Parenting & Supporting Grieving Children
Acts of Simple Kindness
http://actsofsimplekindness.org
New Song Center for Grieving Children (Arizona)
http://www.hov.org/welcome-new-song-center-grieving-children
Stepping Stones of Hope
http://steppingstonesofhope.org
Grief Camps for Children
Comfort Zone Camp
http://www.comfortzonecamp.org
Camp Courage
http://www.bereavementcamp.org
The Moyer Foundation
http://www.moyerfoundation.org
Taps Good Grief Camps (nationwide)
Call: 1800-959-8277 to find a camp in your area
Stepping Stones of Hope (Camp Paz) – Arizona only
http://www.steppingstonesofhope.org
Camp Hometown Heroes
http://www.hometownheroes.org/

W Connection Org

Widow Chick

Widow Support Groups

Heartache To Healing Support Groups For Widows

 

ASIA

India

The Loomba Foundation

 

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Other useful information:

UN

UN Women Press Release

Free books and media

Open Culture

 

Micro-financing for widows in developing nations

Kiva